Are you in the gap, the space of not yet experiencing the life situation of your dreams? I think of dreams as the glitter–the ideas that spark our passions, the bright spots that we envision will light up our future. The “gold” is the achievement of the goal, the dream, our heart’s desire. The gap is all that percolates in between the desire and the achievement of it.

When I’m in that gap, I have to go to work on my thoughts, my feelings, my frustrations and fears. I can’t dwell on the ones that don’t serve my desires; they’ll just keep me stuck in places I don’t want to be. Some things are within my ability to change, but some are not. That’s when I have to remember to “allow”, and replace all those thoughts of how badly I want something, how much I wish things would change, how much better life would be if that dream would hurry up and materialize, to allowing things to be as they are in that slice of life.

Recognizing that some things are not within my power to change, I focus on allowing them the space they’re already taking up in my reality.  It stops the resistance, the gnashing and thrashing as I allow it as part of my life in that slice of time, embracing rather than resisting it.

My daughter, Stephanie, per my last post, with a dream of being part of the entertainment industry, ventured her way to Hollywood earlier this month, where things do glitter and turn to gold for talented souls who hold firm in their resolve. The wait can be torturous, unable to fast forward through the discomfort, frustration and fears. Allowing things to be as they are, and not entertaining thoughts of giving in to them or giving up the dream, fuels determination and persistence–the grit of every desired role or experience of life.